“I soooo happy, mama”

Last night, we were able to leave the hospital. Ronan was fast asleep in his hospital bed and about 10:30 p.m. the nurse came into the room and said we could leave. I gathered up our things, managed to carry our bag, Ronan’s blankets, and pick up my baby boy and carry him to the car. He woke up just as we were waiting for the elevator, wrapped his arms around me and said, “I soooo happy, mama. I love you soooo much. I sooooo proud of you.” The tears welled up in my eyes and I felt like my heart was going to explode. It is things like that, that make all the bad parts of what we are going through, disappear.

Today, I am so thankful for so many different things, big and small. I am thankful that I have such a strong mother-in-law. Anyone who knows my mother-in-law, knows what an amazing person she is. But it is her strength as she is standing by our side through all of this that makes me love her, adore her, and look up to her more than I could have possibly imagined. I think she is possibly the strongest women I have ever met in my entire life.

I am thankful for my all of my dear friends. My Niki, who loves to leave me long voicemails, pouring her heart out to me. The fact that after a 5 minute phone conversation she can tell by the sound of my voice if I am having a weak moment or if I am doing o.k. And if she can tell that I am not doing well, she’ll call me back up to leave me a message or listen to me vent, cry, or not even talk at all. My Tricia, who is flying to NYC just to hold my hand through this. Who knows what it means to be a real friend, even in such an awful situation. She fills me with encouragement, hope and love. For the phone conversation I had with my Susie today, who doesn’t live here but because of our friendship and bond, it doesn’t make a difference in the love we have for each other. She is so understanding, supportive and knows just how to make me laugh when I need it most. My dear Kotalik family. They too will be in NYC with us and they have no idea how much that means to me. We are going to need all of the love and support we can get out there.

I am thankful for my strong husband, who refuses to give up this fight. Who questions the doctors every move, decision, and treatment option. For my amazing, strong twin boys. Their smiles and giggles light up my world. The way they treat Ronan, love Ronan, and take care of Ronan. They are so brave and beautiful. I love to see the way Ronan lights up as soon as they walk into a room. The bond the 3 of them have is like nothing I’ve ever seen before. Their souls are connected and it will forever stay that way.

I am thankful for an amazing lady named Dr. Adams. She is the doctor who is in charge of Ronan’s stem cell transplant and when we met with her yesterday, we were prepared for a fight with the things we are requesting for Ronan and how we are questioning everything. She could not have been more compassionate, loving, and open minded. She listened, stated her opinions without being too overbearing, and agreed to listen to what Dr. Kushner from Sloan Kettering had to say regarding Ronan’s stem cell harvest. I know from listening to her and looking into her eyes, that she wants nothing but best for Ronan. She is amazingly brilliant and it is so nice to completely trust someone with the life of your son. I trust her 110%. She has poured her entire life into something she believes in and is passionate about. I will forever have the utmost respect and love for her.

I am thankful for the little things too. The fact that we have a house, food on the table, and the means to get Ronan the best treatment possible. Thank god for insurance. I am thankful that tonight I am going to go out to enjoy my husband and friends to the fullest. After this past week in the hospital, I really need some time with Woody. Everyday, I find myself humbled and thankful for pretty much everything in my life. Some things are new, some are old, but all are important. The thing I am thankful for most though is another day looking into Ronan’s big blue eyes and another night sleeping with him snuggled up beside me. He is such a precious gift to our family. We as a family will never be ungrateful for the petty things in life again. Ronan has put everything in perspective. What a big job for such a little boy.

P.S. Some have you have asked what we are going to NYC for. We are going there to have Dr. La Qualia, from Sloan Kettering, resect the tumor that is in Ronan’s abdomen. He is one of the  very top doctors at doing this and has been given the nickname of “The surgeon of the Angels.” They say he has a gift; a magic touch. We only want the very best operating on Ronan. He is our best shot at saving our baby and getting all of the Neuroblastoma out of his body. He knows what he is doing, knows what to look for, and has been recommended by everyone we have talked to. So NYC, here we come. <3<3<3

Have a beautiful weekend my beautiful friends.

6 thoughts on ““I soooo happy, mama””

  1. How wonderful to have your son acknowledge that he is proud of you. I think being the mom is the hardest part of the whole cancer thing. I would take my daughter’s cancer in a minute if I could and I would give my life to save hers.

    I shaved my head when she lost her hair, and she told me that I look ugly. Well, it’s a moot point now but I feel like I’ve done SOMETHING to feel a little bit of what she’s going through.

    I am so glad that you have so much support and such a wonderful husband and family. You inspire me.

    Love,
    Michiko
    Mom to Kimiko, age 4, NBIV dx 9/21/10

  2. I am so glad you are surrounded by positive, loving people.I am so pround of your strength and all that you are doing to win this battle. We love you guys.

  3. So glad that you & your family are so blessed, including blessed to have such a loving and understanding Mom/Grandma in Longview, who works so very hard to try to help & support you, Ronan, & the rest of your family

  4. I am so glad that even though you are fighting a frightening, uphill battle, you & your family are strengthend by so many family members & friends. Also by your Mom, Lynn, who, as I see her on a regular basis, is working so hard to spread her love, hope and support to you, Ronan & your family.

    1. Sue~ I am beyond blessed when it comes to my own mom and step dad, Jim. I am beyond thankful for them and the love they have for my babies. I would give anything to be able to visit and give them both a big and hug. Since I can’t, maybe you can do it for me:)

  5. Gratitude is healing and uplifting, keep seeing the blessings.

    Kay is truly a strong woman with an inner strength. My prayer is that my daughter-in-law can feel the way you do about me as the years go by. Thank you for sharing those feelings.

    Being humble is a wonderful characteristic and one that God asks us to develop. Maya, I’d say you are really growing and life my be tough, but you are tougher.

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