A few things……

First and foremost, I hope you all are having a beautiful day. I hope your day is full of lots of love, laughter, kisses, and hugs. I hope your day is full of all the beauty that surrounds you and I am so honored that Ronan has made you all so much more thankful for the blessings in your life. As much as I miss him, I truly am thankful for the many gifts he has left all of us especially all the love that he continues to spread around the world, to people like you. I know that his love is something that will continue to inspire countless people and for that I am truly grateful.

I wanted to take a minute to also talk about The Brightest Star in the Sky event that is happening at The Biltmore this Friday. As of now, almost 300 tickets have been sold. I am in shock at how quickly this event was pulled together and I had absolutely nothing to do with it. I cannot say thank you enough to everyone involved and it is even more amazing that so many of the people who have worked so hard on this, that I’ve never even met. They have taken it upon themselves, out of the kindness of their hearts to do something so selfless and inspiring. To everyone who has so generously been donating items left and right, thank you so much. As I’ve said before, I don’t have an exact plan as far as what we want to do with the money that is being raised in Ronan’s name for his foundation. I have a number in mind as far as how much I want to raise, and it is big. A big part of me knows we are going donate it  to research, but Woody and I both are going to put a lot of time and effort into finding out right facility to donate it to. This is a decision that is going to take a lot of time and effort. As Woody says, he wants to sit down with the doctors and have them tell us why we should believe in them and what they are doing. We want them to answer to us as to why they deserve to receive such a gift in honor of our son. We have to believe in our hearts in what they are doing and that they are going to be the one’s who are deserving of this gift. I also know I would like to help out other families who may not have the support that we do, but deserve it just as much. In my heart of all hearts, I just want to make a difference and in no way shape or form could we do this without all of you. Someday, I hope to help with saving the lives of these precious children and I hope you all know it is not just me doing this, but you as well. It is because of your generosity, your love, your support, the taking the time to care and spread Ronan’s story around that I know great things are going to be accomplished. Please know that I am so very thankful for that. You are each helping to save my sanity and my family. I know I say this all the time, but you all give me such strength when I feel like I can’t go on. I am thankful for all of you every second of everyday.

Today, I am going to try to enjoy the sun and the beach as much as I possibly can. Today, I am going to try to bask in the love of my twins, family, and friends that surround me. Today, I am not going to hide in my bed like I did most of yesterday. Today, I will try to have a good day for my Ronan and for my twins because they deserve to see their mama smile. I love you all. Thank you again for everything and please go and enjoy Friday night if you can. It is going to be an amazing event and it is just the beginning of all the things that are to come in honor of my blue-eyed boy. A special thank you to the group of people who I am just calling my busy little bees. You all are amazing!!!!

xoxo

P.S. Yesterday it was the birthdays of my two beautiful friends, Sarah and Susie. I totally blanked on their days which I feel awful about. You two know how much I love you and how much you mean to me. I hope your birthdays were filled with love. I know Ronan was surrounding you giving you one of his famous winks and smiles. I love you both.

 

Everything’s not lost, but really it is

Ronan. You were everywhere today. I had to stop and catch my breath a few times just so I wouldn’t throw up. I am reminded of you in everything and everywhere. In the whole avocado that Quinn had for lunch. In the Mickey Mouse beach bag that Stacy carried her kids’ beach stuff in. In the Star Wars swim trunks that Mac had on today. Even as I watched your cousin, Jake, eat some Mandarin Oranges at dinner. I had to fight back the tears over all of those things today. You loved all of them so much. It’s so strange to see these things that have such little meaning to everyone else, but they mean everything to me. I don’t know how to deal with all of those little things because every time I see things like this, I just want to curl up and die.

I am not living. I am surviving. And it sucks. I still don’t understand why you were taken away from us so quickly. I think about this all the time. It kills me that everything changed so suddenly and how rapidly your disease progressed. I swear it happened over night. Your daddy and I fought so hard for you. We talked to the best doctors, researched everything we possibly could and it still was not enough. It all happened way too quickly and I’m still trying to make sense of something, even though I know I will probably never get an answer. I deserve one though and I am angry at the way the doctors just seem to want to sweep you under the rug, like you never existed. I want to hear from them that they are sorry. I want to them to look me in the eyes and see their pain because  they couldn’t save you. I want some sort of acknowledgement that you were here and they are sorry that they couldn’t save you. I know this won’t make you come back, but I want them to hurt the way I am hurting so that maybe they will work harder to save the life of the next child who is going through something like this. I know that these doctors work hard, but not fucking hard enough because you are gone. I want someone to blame, even though I know nobody deserves to carry the burden of this. This is the cause and effect of our insanely mad world. It is the only way to explain how such a thing can happen to a child or a teenager. Complete unfairness and insanity. There is no other answer.

I ran on the beach tonight and was so not feeling it. I pushed through for you though. I sat and watched a daddy pulling his little girl on a boogie board and then I watched as the mom came and swooped her up and off they went holding hands, running down the beach. I wonder if that mommy knows how lucky she is. I would have given anything to have been that mommy today, running down the beach and holding your hand. Instead, I get to watch somebody else doing it. It was another one of those outer body experiences that I seem to have all the time now. After I watched the mommy and little girl, I laid down and the sand and looked up at the sky and just cried. I didn’t want to finish my run, but you forced me to get back up and pound out the last 2 miles. The waves chased me a lot today and at one point I couldn’t run fast enough away from them. My sneakers ended up getting soaking wet. I thought of you and pretended that the waves were your little feet trying to run after me. I have to hold on to things like this; this imaginary life I have made up in my head just to get through the days without you.

I heard from, “The Stranger,” again tonight. Except now, I know her name. I liked hearing from her and a bit of her story. It took a lot for her to write her first email to me but I am so glad she had the courage to do so. Her words helped me last night when I was really needing it. She talked about how she struggled for nights to write that email and then to actually send it. After my day yesterday, her email could not have come at a more perfect time. I know that was you, Ro. Your little way of getting to me. Thank you for that.

Quinn and Liam have their cousins, Jake and Carter over for a sleepover tonight. All is quiet except for your big brother, Quinn is in bed with me watching Sports Center. I knew he would end up in here with me and not out in the living room with all the other boys. It has been so nice having your brothers spend time with their cousins. They have formed such a bond over such a short period of time and all the laughter and just watching them all be boys has made my heart a little happy. It is helping me to see your brothers laugh and smile despite the sadness that I know weighs heavy in their hearts. I’m watching them heal a little more one day at a time and I know a big part of this is the family that surrounds us. I am so thankful for that.

I’m so sad tonight, Ro. Your daddy is not here and when I talked to him on the phone I could hear how sad he was being at home all alone. Without us and without you. I don’t know what to do or to say except for to tell him I love him. I’m having a hard time talking to him about you yet because everything is too painful. When we do sit and talk about you we both just end up crying. I don’t think the crying is ever going to stop. I don’t think there are two parents who ever loved a little boy so much. I like to think that it is because of the love that your daddy and I have for each other which is why you were given to us. We love each other so much and you were such a gift. I just don’t know why you had to be taken away. And I don’t know how we are just supposed to go on because it does not seem possible to live our life without you. I’m clinging on to anything I possibly can, but it will never be enough and I honestly don’t know how I am going to survive this. This life hurts and this life is cruel.

But I am going to continue to fight through this because I know it is what you want. It is what your brothers deserve and your daddy too. But there is not a day that goes by that I wish the world would just swallow me whole. Every inch of my body hurts and misses you. That will stay with me for the rest of my life. I’ve somehow got to find a way to learn to live this new life without you. I promise I will try as long as you keep guiding me and giving me strength.

That is all for tonight my love. I hurt too much to write anymore. I love you to the moon and back my most beautiful boy. Sweet dreams.

P.S. Every song on Pandora tonight has reminded me of you. Are you the one making this little playlist for me, my sweet boy? Your gifts are all around. Everyday with you was the best day of my life. I love you, Ro baby.

xoxo