As many of you are aware, there have been a few issues with boundaries being crossed in terms of Ronan’s image being used. For the most part, these were limited to young people making “edits”, copying Ronan into a photo of Poppy, things like that…and again for the most part, when we asked people to stop doing that, they did.
But there are a few people out there who are so disgusting, they want to use Ronan’s beautiful face to make money. Not money for cancer research or to help families in need. Money to line their own pockets.
Last month, we were informed a “foundation” was using Ronan’s photo on all of their pages. The photo of Ronan with his little eye battered and blackened was all over the social media pages of this entity, and with it was a plea for donations. To them, not our foundation.
They did not ask me.
They did not even TELL me.
They just stole my child and pasted his little face all over their social media sites.
We contacted them, of course. And we were given a bullshit excuse about it being the “mistake” of an intern.
So here we are not even one month later on March 7th, and whose face is at the forefront of ALL their pages yet again?
MY son, who may be known to millions because of this blog …but who is not public property to be manipulated and used.
It turns out this “charity” is using multiple images without permission. Make no mistake, there is no “intern” making a goof or a “customer service team” correcting them. This is a person who is aware Ronan is well known and he thought he could get away with making people think we somehow endorse or support his “charity.”
Ronan is not a piece of meat. He’s not a commodity to trade in. He was a living, breathing child…whose absence is felt in a devastatingly harsh way, every single day. Seeing things like this, seeing people USE our child for personal gain…it makes me physically sick.
I have been lied to. I have had words put into my mouth that I have never said. I have had people in my life try to ruin my friendships. I have dealt with over-sized egos and hidden agendas. I have had people try to use my son, his story, and all he stands for to gain something for themselves. I have had way too many tweens claiming to be Ronan’s cousin, while crying through social media that they feel the physical pain of missing him when in fact they never even knew him. I have had mothers straight lie to me, claiming to be a “cancer mom” just like me, when in fact they are not but that doesn’t stop them from begging me to do x,y, and z for them. I have had people claiming to be DYING from cancer which have turned out to be LIES. I have had cancer kids’ made up by other people, just hoping that I would take the bait, and a couple of times I have because who the fuck would make up something like that??? My words have been plagiarized, stolen, and used. I have tried my best to deal with these situations quietly and to rise above them.
I AM DONE.
After the day I had today where I spent the majority of it crying my real fucking tears for the never-ending pain I feel from this life without my son, I AM MORE THAN FUCKING DONE. All the other stuff I am capable of handling on my own. This fucking “charity” has crossed the line.
So they want to use my baby’s image to ask for donations?
Fine. I’ll use their “baby”, too. To NOT ask for donations:
DO NOT SUPPORT THEM. WE DO NOT SUPPORT THEM AND ARE NO WAY AFFILIATED WITH THEM.
I am also asking once again, for THE CHILDREN’S HOSPITALS NATIONAL FOUNDATION to remove any pictures of Ronan, right fucking NOW.
One very pissed off mother who actually works her ass off to raise real money to help real fucking kids, not to line her pockets.