Fucking Fuck Fuck Fuck


Whoever thought of the word, “Fuck,” is a fucking genius. I like to throw it around here and there, when it is necessary. I say it in my head, more often than I do out loud. I write it a lot. I get a lot of crap for it which I tend to ignore. You don’t like my language on here, then don’t read my blog. You know what I don’t like? That my son got cancer. And died. That fucking sucks more than anything. When Ronan was diagnosed with cancer, it made sense to have bracelets made so people could show their support. I stayed true to who I was and what I was feeling, which just happened to be, “FUCK YOU CANCER!” It also made me laugh during the darkest of times, like when I was in a hospital for over 21 days straight, with my baby boy. Looking down at that bracelet, often gave me a good chuckle. I’ll admit it, I have a very dark sense of humor. I embrace this. I own this. Fuck you cancer is about as dark as you can get.

I can guarantee you, anyone who is dealing with cancer, no matter what type it is, wants to scream this. Most people don’t have the balls to put on a bracelet, especially when it is pertaining to their child; but why not? Because it is offensive to put the FUCK word out there when your child gets cancer? Says who? I say it is offensive to not stay true to yourself. I say it is offensive that children get cancer and die from it. I say it is offensive that my husband and I had to navigate our way through our son’s treatment, because nobody in the medical world knows exactly how to handle Neuroblastoma. I say it is offensive the way people say the word, Fuck, is offensive whom have obviously never lost a child. It’s a word. Get over it. Childhood Cancer. Now that is something to be offended by.

Your child dying from cancer? Your mom dying from cancer? Your sister dying from cancer? Your husband dying from cancer? Your best friend dying from cancer? Your brother dying from cancer? That is beyond fucked up. It is worthy of the fuck word being used. Stop being so afraid of the word Fuck. Embrace it. Saying the words “Fuck you cancer,” is much more satisfying than screaming, “Gosh darn you cancer! You killed my son!” Trust me on that one. There are bigger things in life to be afraid of. There are bigger things in life, to be offended by. If you are offended by the word, Fuck, it tells me that you are living your life in such a bubble, that you have to make up things to get upset about. It is absolutely ridiculous.

I made a nice version of the bracelets too. I don’t wear it, but my kids do. I only let them wear the Fuck You Cancer bracelets, on special occasions. Oh no. Are you offended because my 8 year olds know that word? I am offended that they had to watch their brother, die. I am offended by the fact that my 8 year sat with his little bro, 2 days before he died, and asked me why he was talking so sleepy and wanted to know when would he wake up, so they could play. I am offended that I had to sit there, look my child in the eyes, and tell him that he wasn’t going wake up and play again because he was going to be getting sleepier and sleepier. That really fucking offends me.

So, to all of you fucking fuck word haters out there. YOU OFFEND ME. CANCER OFFENDS ME. I know what it means to live a life and to have real things to be offended by. If you are going to let a word get you all hot and bothered; then you need to re examine what is really important in life. You need to re examine what it means to truly be upset by something. Because it is not worth it, to get so upset over a word. You don’t like the word? Word to your mother. I get it. You don’t like it, then don’t use it. But to get upset over somebody else using it, is just obscene.

I personally think the word, is awesome. Did you know that it is the only word in the English language that can grammatically complete, and stand alone in a sentence? Ex: Fuck, fucking fuckers fucked. It can be used as an adjective, adverb, adverb enhancing an adjective, a noun, as a part of a word, ex: one of my favs:::: absofuckinglutely, and as almost every world in a sentence, fuck the fucking fuckers. Bloody Brilliant!

You know what else I would like you to know?? Don’t judge a book by its cover. If you know me, in real life, you know that I am a classy broad. I don’t run around screaming this word just to hear myself say it. I am quiet, reserved, serious, and shy… until I am comfortable enough with you to show you the real me. That’s when the real fun begins. My truth is, my son got cancer and all rules flew out the window. If I want to have tee-shirts made that say “Fuck Cancer,” or bracelets made that say, “Fuck you Cancer,” that is my right, as a human being. That is my right, and who are you to say I shouldn’t be able to say what I want to scream at cancer everyday? The fucking cancer police?

Like I said, if you don’t like it, fine. I don’t really get that, but whatever. But don’t try to silence me. Don’t sit back and judge me. You haven’t walked a second in my shoes. It’s time to go and find a new hobby. One that is more offensive than the F word. Maybe you could get fired up about all the babies who sit in the hospital, with cancer, who don’t have any parents to hold them, because they have to work all day and night. Maybe you could be offended about all the babies who get cancer and die. Maybe you could be offended by parents like my husband and myself, who spent our lives doing everything right, only to have our precious son, die of cancer. Trust me. That is way more offensive than the F word could ever be.

Or maybe it’s time to let your guard down and figure out what’s the REAL reason, you are so offended by that word. Because it’s not lady like? Neither is sitting in a pool of blood because your child’s platelets are so low that you can’t get his bloody nose to stop. Neither is not being able to shower for 3 days because you cannot bear to leave your child’s side. Neither is screaming the FUCK word because you were just told that your child’s cancer is spreading and there is nothing more that anyone can do. Fuck ladylike. I’ll stop using the word, FUCK, when Childhood Cancer no longer exists. Until then, the FUCKING FUCKWAD can FUCKING FUCK OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Actually, I changed my mind. I won’t ever stop using this word because Cancer killed my son. So unless you have a magic, purple fucking wand that can bring him back, I will be screaming this word until the day I die.

To all my lovelies. I love you all. Thank you for being so open-minded and not being offended by my truth. Sweet dreams. G’nite my little Ro baby. I miss you. I love you. I hope you are safe.

xoxo

If you are still offended after this picture, then you have serious issues and can fuck off in the nicest way possible.

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  1. Michelle

     /  October 24, 2011

    I agree with all you wrote, but you left out fuckwad.

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  2. Kimberly

     /  October 24, 2011

    Fuckity Fuckin Rights! Just gave one of Ronan’s Fuck You Cancer, to a family friend who had cancer surgery last week. It gave him and his wife a good hearty laugh to wear it and to me, that’s gold.

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  3. Vivian

     /  October 24, 2011

    My comment today, how about a big F.U. to the person(s) that made Maya even feel the need to take time out of her writings to Ro to address you. Shame on you. This is a place where she is able to let her words fly w/o judgement or prejudice. We’re all simply bystanders in her life/living hell. Be happy this isn’t you and let her speak her mind how she wants.

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  4. Tina

     /  October 24, 2011

    FUCK YOU MOTHER FUCKING CANCER! Its not ok that FUCKING CANCER took him away from you. I’m so sorry…..it’s so FUCKING WRONG.

    Love to you Ro & Maya, always thinking of you!

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  5. Ali

     /  October 24, 2011

    Best fucking post ever!

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  6. Michelle

     /  October 24, 2011

    Fuck yeah Rudy!

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  7. MafiaMember

     /  October 24, 2011

    One of my favorite posts to date.

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  8. Tina

     /  October 24, 2011

    FUCK U CANCER

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  9. unknown

     /  October 24, 2011

    Here are some proper and thought out ways to use the word Fuck. Enjoy.

    Driving a point across: Fuck is great word to show that you’re passionate about something. ie, “Fuck those conservative bastards”, or “Do we need nationalized health care? Fuck no!”

    Escalating a situation: The F word can easily escalate a situation to violence if you want it to. Now, I never advocate violence, but bear in mind that we use words in order to achieve what we desire. A simple “What the fuck did you say?” or the shorter “The fuck?” will usually suffice.

    As a litmus: The F word is a great way to subtly find out things about the people around you, especially strangers. By dropping the F bomb and reading their reactions, you can get an idea of the kind of person you’re dealing with. If they look offended, then you know that you’ll most likely have to handle your interactions conservatively. If they respond with a similar phrase, then you can probably be more casual. This is especially true in Provo since you can tell who is Mormon and who is not by their reaction to the F word. Mormons dislike the F word. In fact, they fucking hate it.

    Stubbing your toe: Saying “fuck” aloud really does take the pain away. Trust me.

    As a weapon: That’s right, the F word, when inserted correctly into a sentence or phrase, can be quite a formidable weapon to win an argument. Such phrases as “What the fuck were you thinking!?” or “What the fuck is your problem!?” are easy ways to belittle the other person. Seriously, try saying those phrases without the F word. Doesn’t really have as much bite to it, does it?

    Alleviating anger: Muttering “fuck” under your breath when you fail a test, get a flat tire, or accidentally impregnate your girlfriend, is a great way to satiate and calm your anger. Repeat it as often as necessary.

    This next one is one of my Favorites:
    Ending arguments: This is especially true at BYU. Any time you drop the F bomb at BYU you can almost guarantee the other person is going to puss out and do what you want. For example, if you’re studying at the library and someone is being loud and won’t stop, sternly say “Hey, you need to shut the fuck up”, this shows that you are not messing around and mean business. Coincidentally, it works pretty much with any Mormon in Provo. Why? Because people are afraid of the F word. It throws them off because they choose to ignore it. Using the F word in Provo automatically places you in the same social category as drug users, drinkers, and criminals – all of whom most Provoites fear. So use it to your advantage with professors, students, or whoever you like. You cannot get kicked out or reprimanded by the Honor Code office for saying it.

    Making friends: Yes, even the most taboo of words can be used to win friends, maybe not in Provo, but everywhere else in the world. The F word automatically makes the conversation casual and non-threatening. Such phrases are “Fuck, it’s cold”, “Fuck, you look like you need a drink”, “Fuck, that’s a cool hat” are all great segues into friendship-making conversations.

    Comforting someone: Using the F word in order to comfort is tricky, but it can be done. Say your buddy’s baseball team lost the World Series, a simple “Man, fuck those Yankees” will let him know you sympathize and are on his side. For girls, if your friend just got dumped, a quick “Fuck him, he’s a pig” will help. Even if you don’t regularly use the F word or if your friend finds the F word offensive, using the F word will let them know you are with them through thick and thin. Hell, they might even find it funny that you used it in the first place and laugh. Problem solved.

    Being a Badass: For the most part, saying the F word only makes you a badass when you’re in grade school. However using the term “Fuckin’ A” as a way to agree with someone can be pretty badass. Not only is is short and sweet, it carries with it a sense of down-to-Earth, blue collar mystery. Come on, we all thought that one guy on Office Space was pretty cool. Some examples – Friend: “Hey I just asked Julia to marry me!” You: “Fuckin’ A, man.”, Friend: ” I just got fired, lets go stab my boss!” You: “Fuckin’ A, man.”

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  10. That picture kills me… FUCK!
    Maya, I am so, so sorry Ro is gone.
    FUUUUUUUUUCCK YOOOOOUUUUUU CAAAAANCEEERRRRRR!
    You fucking awful beast!
    XOXOX,
    Clarence.

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  11. Katie

     /  October 25, 2011

    Yep, anyone offended by f.u.c.k needs a silly string douche in a dark alley like you said xx

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  12. Marcia

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fuck you cancer!

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  13. Katie I.

     /  October 25, 2011

    Oh Maya, I’m sorry that people bother you with. something so lame as being offended by the F word. I rarely say it, I usually find it offensive (but in your case very appropriate), but I have not lost a child. In fact, if I lost a child to cancer I can guarantee it would also become my new fave word. You have a right to express your emotions, people are so weird… If they don’t like it don’t read it simple as that… Also these people need to get over themselves, seriously, just stupid. I love Ronan and he is in my heart and so are you. It makes me sad that someone out there can’t get past just a word. I don’t even think that there is a word offensive enough to relate to cancer, fuck will just have to do. I’m so sorry Ronan is not here with you and there is so much pain surrounding your existence.

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  14. boo

     /  October 25, 2011

    I once heard fuck came from king blah blah blah when he wanted his subjects to have more babies : Fornication Under Command (of the) King… Anyway, fuck em all, the fuckin fuckwads. And hey cancer, go fuck yourself!

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  15. Claire

     /  October 25, 2011

    Awesome. The best word in the world is FUCK. Those who get offended by such a little word are FUCKknuckles or FUCKwads, see it just fits with everything.
    Seriously go outside and live your lives instead of getting upset because Maya uses the word FUCK, oh here’s idea how about doing something useful like donating blood, visit your local hospital, so many things to be doing then being offended by FUCK.

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  16. KT

     /  October 25, 2011

    Hi, that picture made me cry. It’s so so
    FUCKING wrong!!!!!!
    Love to you and ALL of your boys. I know he
    is with you always.
    xoxoxoxo

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  17. You know what, Maya? I really thinking it fucking sucks that you say fuck all the time. I mean, FUCK, do you really having to say fuck all the time and have them on your fucking bracelets?? Who the fuck do you fucking think you are that can use the fuck word so liberally? I mean, that is just absolutely fucking ridiculous, you know, because F-U-C-K is such a nasty fucked up word.Oh, what is that I hear? You just lost the most important thing in your life to fucked up fucking neuroblastoma? Your precious child had to endure what NO child should fucking have to endure? Welp, then you absofuckinglutley have the right to express youself however you fucking want because you just had the worst fucking thing happen to you EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Fuck is just a word ppl. Get over it. CANCER should be the the new FUCK. People should be so offended when they hear the word ‘cancer’ that they should do whatever they can in their power to eradicate that fucker. FUCK!

    I love you, Maya!

    xoxo

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  18. You are so fucking right, Maya! It is a WORD people!! Same as rainbow and puppy. FUCK YOU CANCER!!! Maya, your Ro is amazing. He is changing people, he has changed me, through you. And if people read your blog and walk away saying “Golly gee, she uses such bad language” , those people are not getting the picture anyway. They are reading words, not your message, not your pain, not your love. I have a stamp at work for when I don’t feel like answering my employees and the answer is no, it say “NEGAFUCKINGTIVE”. I’d like to stamp some of your readers with it somedays. Love you, Maya! Fuck You, Cancer!!!!

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  19. Jen

     /  October 25, 2011

    Well Fucking siad Maya!

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  20. Valerie Ramo

     /  October 25, 2011

    Most Powerful and truthful thing that I have ever read! I want everyone in the world to read this!!!! Love, Valerie “FUCK YOU CANCER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

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  21. I CANNOT even tell you how many times i have wanted to say everything you just said. We have similarities with our dates…our sons were both born in 2007. My son Drake was first diagnosed at 10 months old tho..the last time it was found on scan was august 16,2010..it took my baby only two days to pass…august 18, 2010..i by no means love reading your posts bc they rip my heart out, but i find comfort knowing im not the only one that wants to scream FUCK YOU CANCER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    • Carolyn

       /  October 25, 2011

      So sorry Danielle, its so unfair, your poor baby.

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    • Danielle … I just read through your website and wish {wish} there was something to help you and your family. Wishing you strength and compassion. Drake was a beautiful baby.

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    • elisha

       /  October 26, 2011

      Danieille,

      I just wanted to let you know that I am truly sorry. I fucking hate cancer, that’s the ugliest word of all, cancer. Drake was so precious and such a brave hero. Hugs for you and your family.

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  22. Dani

     /  October 25, 2011

    Oh Maya! You fuckin rock. I wear my Fuck You Cancer bracelet everyday…I never take it off. The other day my 4 yr old twin boys asked what it said. I told them word for word what it said. They know the F bomb is bad, but now they know that cancer is much fuckin worse. You & your family are always on my mind & in my heart. That picture speaks a thousand fucked up words. Stay strong, Maya!! I love you girl!!!

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  23. Fuck…

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  24. Lisa

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fucking awesome! That’s all the fuck I have to say about that fucking post!

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  25. Crystal

     /  October 25, 2011

    Thank you Maya for continuing to teach us about fucking perspective. I am so sorry about Ronan and I hope I can say that to your face someday. That picture will stay with me the rest of my life. Thank you for sharing. We love you Maya and I will continue to pray for your family.

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  26. Karla Grinter

     /  October 25, 2011

    I personally love the word. That picture was heart wrenching…a big FUCK YOU CANCER!!!

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  27. Toni

     /  October 25, 2011

    We fucking love you Maya!!! ;)

    xoxoxox

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  28. Linda

     /  October 25, 2011

    Love this post!! Fucking perfect!! Sometimes it’s just the only word that works! Childhood cancer is certainly one of those times!! In spite of the horrible saddness it made me laugh!

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  29. I would like to begin this comment with FUCK. FUCK CANCER. My boyfriend and I were watching a television show that said something about cursing making you feel better when in pain. Anytime I stub my toe or really hurt myself I have to curse! I don’t feel better until I let out a good “Fuck, shit, ass, fuck”. I used to have to hit something when I would get mad but then when my son stepped on my toe I realized it was easier to just say a few cuss words. Maybe this is bad but whatever. Since i was a child I always had to hit something if i was mad and i needed to find something different to do so i would never hit my child. Cussing became the answer.
    So my point in this is that according to different websites and even scientific freaking america, cussing can help with the pain. So Maya, curse as loud as you can. Say fuck as ugh as you want because losing your child is the most pain we mothers can experience. It is physical and mental so fuck it. I even included links to people who may not believe me. It made me happy and it made me laugh to read and hear that cursing could help with pain. Ha. So I agree, if people are offended by your language then they really should get over it. We all do it, were not perfect and I think once you lose a child there is no reason to filter anymore. And as for your kids wearing the bracelets, they have seen the worst of the worst and a for is not going to ruin their life. What will ruin their life is their mother not being able to get her anger out and having to keep it all hidden and pretend that everything is roses and unicorns and everything will be ok. Everything will not be ok right now. It is going to take time. So if wearing a bracelet with the words “fuck cancer” make them feel happy or make them smile then that is all that matters. If saying fuck makes you smile, ever then go ahead Maya, scream it at the top of your lungs off the highest mountain top. In fact, next time you run to the top of that mountain on your hiking trip, add an extra fuck in there for me.
    This is a long comment but i enjoyed the extra cursing in it on your behalf.

    http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-do-we-swear

    http://sunshine625.hubpages.com/hub/Curse-Words-Are-Beneficial-To-Your-Health-I-Swear

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  30. Fucking Christ! That photo is so fucking unfair!. I see the love in your boys eyes. I am so sorry! So fucking sorry. I wear my bracelet proud. My 18 month old will wear his proud when it fits his wrist! In our household fuck has never been a word we have been afraid of. Thank you for making us all aware of what is important.

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  31. I like when Smokey from Friday says “But I don’t give a fuck!!”. And, I am never offended by your posts. So keep on dropping those F bombs!

    That picture makes me so sad. :(.

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  32. Kristine

     /  October 25, 2011

    great post Maya!

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  33. Tanya

     /  October 25, 2011

    FUCK!!!!!! That picture breaks my heart. I’m so so sorry. Fucked up.

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  34. Julie

     /  October 25, 2011

    Best word EVER for what is happening to all of these poor babies! I would like to order some bracelets with “FUCK” on them, not the sensored version. Let me know how to order! My girlfriend in Scottsdale purchased a Ronan bracelet for me and I can’t wait to get it, but I have a very good friend who is a cancer survivor and I think she would love a FUCK CANCER bracelet!

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  35. Jennifer H

     /  October 25, 2011

    I could not agree with you more. I held it together through that entire post until the picture…nothing has made me want to scream “Fuck you cancer!!!!” more.
    It has to be offensive, otherwise it wouldn’t work. Can you imagine getting the same satisfaction out of saying “FRICK YOU CANCER!” Nope…just not quite the same. I am a frequent user of sentence enhancers myself, but I know when to keep it tame. I could not care less who finds it offensive in this situation. If they do, they’re probably better off keeping the fuck away from me.

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  36. Kristen

     /  October 25, 2011

    Maya…I FUCKING love you!

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  37. Lea

     /  October 25, 2011

    Awe, what a sweet, sweet boy being surrounded by the sweetest boys ever. Fuck you cancer.

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  38. Jaime H.

     /  October 25, 2011

    Wow Maya, sorry you have to take more flack for something else! Geez. It’s like you said, if you don’t like it , quit reading! love you girl! heartbreaking photo :( . Just sorry for all you’ve been through. No one can judge ’till they’ve walked in your shoes is right! xoxo

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  39. Steph

     /  October 25, 2011

    What I don’t understand, is that if people are that offended by what you write, then WHY ARE THEY READING YOUR BLOG?!?!?! No one is forcing them to read it! This drives me crazy every time someone posts something negative on here. This is not THEIR blog to vent their frusterations with the way you choose to express your feelings/live your life, etc. If people don’t like the realness of your blog, they should go read a blog about fucking rainbows and puppies and maybe they won’t be so “offended”.

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  40. Cheryl Long

     /  October 25, 2011

    Wow, fucking brilliant!!!! Love you Thompson Family!!!! Fuck You Cancer in the biggest fucking way!! Xoxo. That picture is too sad for words. Fucking Cancer.

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  41. Angie

     /  October 25, 2011

    Looking at the picture or Ronan and seeing the love between ur boys really hit me hard! THIS FUCKING CANCER Bullshit needs to gets fucked! No CHILD Deserves this. I personally love the work FUCK it can define so
    Much and i see nothing but fuckin love compassion and realness in U Maya! YOUR FUCKING amazing and are doin amazing things to KICK THIS FUCKWAD CANCER in its FUCKING ASS, id be proud to even let my 6 yr olds wear the FUCK YOU CANCER BRACLETS! Theres to many other things to worry about then the “fuck” word! People need to try sayin it a little more, may take some stress out of there bubbled lifes they live, FUCK can really make a person let lose, Time to relax they ass and fucking get over it! FUCK FUCK FUCK! Maya u have so many followers and lovies that have ur back to support u, so if the fucktards that get offended need to FUCK OFF!!!! Keep it real always thats why i follow u! Dont ever sugar coat anything. Were all here for YOU! I hope u always continue to fuckin keep it real. Much love amd respect for you! Your truely a blessing. Hugs hugs more hugs! Oh and FUCK YOU CANCER you suck ass!

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  42. camila

     /  October 25, 2011

    FUCK cancer! You said it all! I always wanted to say something like that to all people who are offended by the word fuck. I mean, it’s only a word!
    I know you won’t understand it, but there is a brazilian blog about a mom and her boy who are also fighthing this fucking cancer. His name is Pedro. He is 2. He has leuchemia and needs a transplant.
    Here is the link in case you want to see it:

    http://casadopedro.blogspot.com/

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  43. Maya, I missed the pic at the bottom. Mother fucking fuck cancer. You have some balls bigger than any! I hope the strength you display, believe it or not, can rub on half of us. You and Ronan will forever be my hero!
    I fucking love you!
    Jera

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  44. Katie R.

     /  October 25, 2011

    I personally use the F word daily. I use it in the shower, I use in the store, I use it at work….sometimes on a really off day I ask my child to “please get in the fucking car”. My mom taught me to use the word “please” and she taught me the f word. I love it!!
    The picture of your Ronan is very sad but people need to see it. They need to see what cancer is doing to children.
    Lots of fucking love to you Maya!

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  45. Glenda

     /  October 25, 2011

    Maya,

    Fucking amazing post!
    I wear my Fuck you cancer bracelet every fucking day and I wear it fucking proudly. For Rockstar Ro!!! and fucking cancer took my best friend and mama in 2004. So hell to the motherfucking yea I’m going to forever shout FUCKYOUCANCER!!!!

    Peace and strength mamamaya
    XO

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  46. Kristn

     /  October 25, 2011

    It pisses me off that someone would have the fucking balls to even intimate, let alone tell you that you should not say fuck! Who the fuck are they? People can fucking suck! My rage at the beginning of our post went always as I read. I actually feel better  One of your best posts ever sweetie. xoxoxkh

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  47. Kaylee

     /  October 25, 2011

    I love your realness, everybody who is offended by that word can FUCK off! That picture is heartbreaking and only gives us a small glimpse of what you and your family had to go through and continue to go through, so who are we to judge your language? Say fuck all the fuckin time if you want. It’s just a fucking word. All the haters can fuck off

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  48. Daniella

     /  October 25, 2011

    Saying fuck is “bad”….. sure, in a normal perfect world where really fucked up things like Childhood Cancer don’t happen. But, in the no-fucking-sense-world where you lost Ronan…. saying fuck soooooo far from “bad”. Cancer, that’s fucking bad, losing Ronan, that’s fucking bad! Don’t worry about the judgment from fools, after all they are fucking fools! FUCK YOU CANCER!

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  49. JennyFromTheBlock ;)

     /  October 25, 2011

    <3 love <3 love <3 love you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much!

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  50. Fuck. Drop the bombs, Maya. Live true. And, from the mouths of babes, my 13YO read this over my shoulder and offered this {true story} … “Mom, tell Maya to joke them all if they can’t take a fuck”.

    Stopped in my tracks for that one. Took a minute to realize she’d turned the phrase on its head. But, if a 13YO can get it …

    Stay strong.

    Marian

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  51. Faith

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fuck is my favorite curse word…it is ever present in my vocabulary. If any of us have a need to shout the word loudly and often it is you. I trully admire your honesty and that fact that you don’t give a fuck if you offend others. If they are offended by your statments or choice of wording fuck them, they dont have to continue to read this.

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  52. Elke (Germany)

     /  October 25, 2011

    Oh Maya, this picture …. – I am following your blog for many months already and felt like I was having an idea of what you are talking about. Then today, I saw that picture and suddenly understood I had no clue. I am so very sorry. I don’t know what else to say, just know that even on the other side of the ocean people are thinking of you and your beautiful family every day.

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  53. One word: Brilliant.

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  54. Jamie

     /  October 25, 2011

    I wear your bracelets with pride and already have the conversation rehearsed in my head for the asshole that tells me the word on my bracelet is offensive. My response: “I agree, cancer is the most offensive word EVER!!” Love to you and your family! FUCK YOU CANCER, I WANT TO PUNCH YOU IN THE FUCKING FACE!!
    xoxo,
    Jamie

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  55. Maureen

     /  October 25, 2011

    You go Maya!!!! Like you said, if someone is offended, well don’t read the blog….nothing is making them! Personally, I think it’s a great word…as you said, it can be used as a noun, adjective or adverb…keep up your fight and continue to stay true to yourself and your family!

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  56. Just another mama

     /  October 25, 2011

    That picture stopped me in my tracks.

    I’m so terribly terribly sorry.

    It’s so unbelievably cruel that in 2011 (20-fucking-11!) people are watching their babies die.
    Fuck you cancer.

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  57. sara maurer

     /  October 25, 2011

    Maya…this picture brought me straight to tears….absolutely so sad. FUCK OFF CANCER! If people don’t like your words…then they can stop reading! You will never offend me, or the people that truly get you. Thank you for being you, and not censoring for others.

    Hugs….

    Sara

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  58. Nichole

     /  October 25, 2011

    You fucken ROCK Mama Maya!! I am so so sorry that you lost the most beautiful little boy that I have ever laid eyes on..there is no fucking excuse for this…NEVER!! I remember when I saw this picture for the first time..I believe in a slideshow shortly after Ronan died. I couldn’t pull myself away from it.. As a mother of two I was broken. I remember pausing the slideshow and just crying while I stared at the picture. This picture said more to me than a thousand words. This picture is the uncensored fucked up truth of fuckwad Cancer. I wish I had a million copies; one for the moron outside of my son’s class who bitches about not finding a parking spot right in front of the school. “Lady at least you have a beautiful, healthy son to pick up every day. For the dad who yells at his son during his baseball game while he is trying to do something he loves. “Listen fucker let your kid be a kid and cheer him on once in awhile.” For the ignorant people who have no idea how many more pictures there are out there just like this, of all the thousands of families like yours who should never ever have to endure such pain. You have had my attention from the start and I see more and more heads turning your way. You are making a difference Rockstar Mama and I will never stop sharing your beautiful, yet tragic love story. SO scream “Fuck, Fucker, Fuckwad, FUCK YOU CANCER” because us Rockstar fans will have you back till a Mother Fucking cure is found!!!!!

    xoxox

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  59. Rachel

     /  October 25, 2011

    Hope this makes you laugh too & fuck whoever told you they are offended by your language!

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  60. Natalie

     /  October 25, 2011

    I sent one of your naughty bracelets to one of my friends, and she took a picture and put it on Facebook. One of her relatives was offended and couldn’t believe it said fuck on it. Well, I checked this fucking hooker out, and she was using the shit word, but seriously got offended about the word fuck! Assholes! This picture is so heartbreaking!!!!!! Not fucking fair!!!!!! I’m soooo sorry, Maya! May the word fuck never be taken out of your vocabulary!!!!! This girl from Ohio fucking loves you AND using the word fuck everyday from now on!

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  61. April

     /  October 25, 2011

    Maya…I dont personally know you but…I fuckin love you! you say whatever the fuck you want to

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  62. Veronica

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fuck you cancer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Love to you mama Maya!!!

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  63. Amy

     /  October 25, 2011

    support you and the others who’ve articulated this…anyone who reads your blog and gets caught up on the choice of words is not hearing your message. And you are right, they should stop reading. That picture is so wrong and so right all at the same time; it breaks my heart.

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  64. kim

     /  October 25, 2011

    maya, you are so wonderful and so secure in who you are! i cannot believe this is an “issue” that is brought to your attention. seriously, people? lets put things in perspective ok. just like you wrote, ronan dying of cancer is offensive. the twin not being able to play with their brother is offensive. you and woody having to figure out this “new” life w/o ro is offensive. it is just a word. personally, fuck doesn’t bother me. i have always thought that words are words. thats all they are. they hold no power except the power you choose to put behind them.
    im sorry you feel like you have to explain yourself or the words, thoughts, feelings, etc you’re going through after losing ro. some people just dont quite get that “fuck” isnt the big picture here. ronan dying and other babies dying of childhood cancer is the big picture! its too bad when people’s minds are blocked to whats real and important because they are too hung up on a word. sad. you dont need them maya. you dont ever need to explain/justify anything. there are plenty of people who love you, ro and your family to pieces!!!
    xoxo

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  65. Danielle

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fuck-tabulous.

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  66. ljsmom

     /  October 25, 2011

    I consider myself a good, classy, christian woman, but I also realize that sometimes a situation is so messed up that the only word that can do it justice is FUCK!!! And this is absolutely one of those times.

    So FUCK YOU FUCKING STUPID ASS FUCKING CANCER!!! GO TAKE A FUCKING FLYING LEAP AND LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE!!!!! :)

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  67. Leona

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fuck sakes, that picture rips my heart out. So not fucking fair.

    Leona~
    xoxox

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  68. Melissa

     /  October 25, 2011

    Where, oh where do I get a bracelet?

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  69. rememberellie

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fuckity fuck fuck! Great post, Maya. I proudly wear my bracelet. FUCK YOU CANCER!!!

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  70. Erin

     /  October 25, 2011

    FUCK CANCER.

    That photo.. my god. FUCK CANCER for doing this to you and your family. I just want to wrap my arms around you. I am so sorry…

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  71. You make up your own rules so you can say, write and do whatever the fuck you want. I wish I had a purple fucking wand.

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  72. Melissa

     /  October 25, 2011

    Maya-
    I watched my sister suffer and die from a brain tumor and could not agree with you more…FUCK CANCER! Even if I had not been through that and didn’t know anyone that had, there is no way I could be offended by your feelings. You have to do what helps you and fuck anyone that can’t handle it. The picture you posted made me cry. I don’t understand why anyone has to go through it.
    We all love you and your family and are here for you no matter what.

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  73. Pamela

     /  October 25, 2011

    Fuck this shit. I am getting a Mammogram tomorrow to make sure what I feel is not fucking cancer. I am pissed at that picture you posted. It’s been several months since May – for the rest of us. For you it’s probably been a never ending fucking groundhog day. That picture makes it fucking real. Cancer is not a pretty pink ribbon. It fucking pisses me off that a pink ribbon is now a symbol for cancer but not for childhood cancer. Every mom may be at risk for breast cancer but does every Mom even comprehend that her child could have to face cancer?? Moms should be fucking outraged!!!

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  74. Dear Maya,

    I’m sure you’ve heard this quote:

    “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ― Dr. Seuss

    Thank you for sharing the beauty and essence of Ronan, the beauty of you & the beauty of your family with all of us.

    As a mom to a sweet baby boy that I buried 15 months ago, FUCK anyone that stands in judgement of you. I would be honored to wear a “FUCK YOU CANCER” t-shirt. Next time I need to scream because my son Zachary in not here, I would also like to scream “FUCK, FUCK, FUCK it all….Ronan Thompson should be here with his Mommy, Daddy and Brothers!!!!

    My Husband and I will be attending An Evening of Kindness hosted by you and Ronan. While I am looking forwarding to meeting you in person, my heart hurts for the reason we will be crossing paths.

    In loving memory of Zach and Ronan,
    Shawn

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  75. jtdjden

     /  October 25, 2011

    Been reading a while. Finally had to comment. This is absofuckinglutely the most brilliant post ever. So very sorry that there has to be a picture like that in existence ANYWHERE. But it has to be seen and break heart after heart until we beat this fucker. Can’t wait for my bracelet. Sending love to you, mamamaya. Have been wanting to post, but just couldn’t find the words. They all run around my head in a jumble and it sounds like this: thatpoorbabyhispoormamafuckingwhythefuckdoesthishappensheonlyhadafewyearswiththatpreciousboyfuckingfuckFUCK!

    You go, girl. xoxo The haters and cancer can both just fuck off.
    Tricia

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  76. lrouse

     /  October 25, 2011

    And I fucking love you! Two of my girls told me they were going to Taylor Swift tonight and I told them NO HOMEWORK- just GO and you can make up homework later on. FUCK CANCER and FUCK people who don’t give a shit about other people. I think Rockstarronan.com is fearless in every sense of the word! As are you! Love, love, love… RO!

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  77. Claudia Flaherty

     /  October 25, 2011

    Holy Mother Fuck!!!! I imagine you sat with that picture now for months Maya, wondering if you would ever be able to post it. As much as it stopped me dead in my tracks and made me cry just thinking of that horrible moment in your life, I am so glad you posted it. It’s fucking real shit. This is what people need to see to wake the fuck up! I just saw a commercial on tv about childhood cancer and St. Jude’s. It made me so happy. I feel like it was Ronan. Things are gonna happen Maya. You and Ronan will change the world! You are now his voice and he will continue to help be yours.
    Sending you big hugs Maya Inca Badass Mofucker!! ;)

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  78. Claudia Flaherty

     /  October 25, 2011

    One more thing, this quote reminded me of you and Ronan when I heard it and I wanted to share it with you.

    “Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” – Think Different, narrated by Steve Jobs

    Xoxo
    Claudia

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    • Gina

       /  October 26, 2011

      Do not know u either but fucking luv u. My heart breaks 4 u all the time and especially 4 Ronan. I luv on my boys and cherish every fucking thing about them. I will fucking help bring awareness in hopes that children will not fucking suffer from fucking cancer. My heart has always been an open one, but forever changed simply by your blog. Shed a lot of tears over your blog and do not fucking regret finding this blog. Hugs and luv to u and your family. Fuck cancer.

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  79. Carolyn

     /  October 25, 2011

    Maya, that picture makes my heart feel like it cracked in half. There is only one word you can scream at that picture, and you got it right.

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  80. Michelle H.

     /  October 25, 2011

    Sweet Maya~ As someone else had mentioned, I too felt like after following your journey for so long that I had some perspective on what it’s like for a family to be coping with cancer. I’ve read about Ronan’s diagnosis, treatment options, hospital choices…your daily account of what it is truly like to have a child live with cancer, and to be taken away because of cancer. But to see that picture made me painfully aware of how little any of us know because the most painful part of the journey had, until now, just been described in words. But to share a photograph of such a sacred part of Ronan’s life will forever change me. Thank you, as always, for sharing. And thank you for your sweet comment my friend, it made my day. xo

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  81. Elisha

     /  October 25, 2011

    That picture…broke my heart. FUCK CANCER.

    My favorite fuck phase…FOR FUCKS SAKE…So, for fucks sake people get fucking over the word fuck and start doing something worthwile!!

    Nothing but love for you and your boys

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  82. Mira

     /  October 26, 2011

    I guess this should be the song of the day:

    Lily Allen’s “Fuck You”

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  83. Mira

     /  October 26, 2011

    Please delete my last comment. This is the UNCENSORED version :-D

    “Fuck You”

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  84. Gay Willits

     /  October 26, 2011

    Well I cannot even look back at this picture as it seems like yesterday we were building volcanos in our back yard. I remember how scared I was to come to Ryan House when you called. It’s true cancer is the worse thing on this planet. To see this picture or witness it NOBODY should ever have to go through this hell. To keep happening to such amazing little kids is unforgivable. Keep writing love you all.

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  85. The pic rips my heart out. To lose a child no matter what the reason or manner is a knife that remains in your heart forever.

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  86. As I read this post, I cannot help but chuckle a little. The irony of using a good portion of George Carlin’s routine about “Fuck”, especially since he died of cancer, is not lost on me.
    Fucking brilliant!
    We fucking love you!
    FUCK Cancer!
    Murray

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  87. Amy

     /  October 26, 2011

    First thought that came to my mind when I saw this picture:
    FUUUUCK!!!!!!!!!
    So sorry Maya…Much love to you and yours… xoxo

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  88. angelina

     /  October 26, 2011

    Maya,
    Last week one of the triplets dropped his fork and then said “fucking shit”. My husband gave me the if looks could kill stare and told me I needed to stop cursing. I on the other hand was LMAO and told him to get over it because it was fucking funny coming from a 3 1/2 year old!
    Keep doing what you know is right for you and your family! You are all so beautiful! Never forget that Roman is a part of all of you and always with you!
    Much love!

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  89. Desiree

     /  October 26, 2011

    That picture…. Are there any other words to express what has happened to you, your boys, your husband, your friends, your entire family? NO! Keep saying anything and everything you want Maya. You are amazing. Look at all the responses after this post? I don’t use the F-word, but I do in my HEAD all the time! And if this happened to my babies, I would be blogging and saying the word left & right until the day I died. There is NO other word to use. Childhood Cancer is F’d up. I’m so so sorry…. And I’m so sorry for the ignorant people reading this blog who don’t even deserve to be reading it in the first place. They aren’t here to support you, or to help make a change! F them! You keep going Maya. Keep going!!

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  90. LS

     /  October 26, 2011

    Hmmmmm……..

    I use the F Word on a regular daily basis in general conversation with likeminded people. The word does not offend me as a word at all. My kids hear me say it all the time but they know better than to use it in my presence – I’ve told them when they’re adults they can swear as much as they want but it’s not appropriate for children, in the same way that alcohol is not for kids.

    However, I am well aware that plenty of people, probably mostly women of the older generation, are genuinely offended by the word. It’s just how it is, fact. And they should not be criticized for feeling that way.

    BUT… anybody offended by your use of the word after what you’ve been through should keep their thoughts to themselves and certainly should not criticize you. They don’t like it, they don’t have to read it!

    You’re bound to have supporters here who are offended by the word, never use it themselves, but don’t complain to you because they know what you’ve been through and support your right to use it. You’ve potentially just alienated them when you could have just had a go at the ones who complain.

    It’s just a word and times are changing – pretty soon the offensiveness will have died out. Will we then love it as much, will we get such satisfaction from using it? Will we need a new word? Let’s face it, part of what makes it so good is the fact that it’s still got that attachment to being slightly offensive.

    Anyway, bottom line is your boy died of cancer and that is really offensive. I support people’s right to be offended by the use of the word but I don’t support them complaining to you about it.
    xxx

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  91. Stefanie

     /  October 26, 2011

    Here is what offended me today:

    In my Microsoft Outlook spellcheck “fuck” is in the dictionary. “Neuroblastoma” is not.

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  92. This was a good fucking read, Thanks for fucking writing and for fucking posting it, I also want to thank all the fuckers who made comments. Fuck Childhood cANCER!

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  93. AL

     /  October 28, 2011

    That picture brings tears to my eyes… I am so sorry.

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  94. Khristen

     /  October 30, 2011

    I’m so sorry Maya. I do feel much better about my 5 year old running around preschool saying “fucker” for a few weeks. I used to chalk it up to bad parenting, now I know better. We pray for your family every night. xoxo

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  95. Felicia Laborin

     /  October 30, 2011

    You are one of my heroes for MANY reasons. This post, by far makes you my COOLEST hero ;) keep going lady, one foot in front of the other and know that FUCKING PEOPLE THINK YOUR A FUCKING COOL STRONG FUCKING CHICK!!! AND SOME PEOPLE REALLY NEED TO GET A LIFE AND SHUT THE FUCK UP… if they don’t like it. Thank you very much

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  96. Brianna

     /  October 30, 2011

    Well said, fuck Mutherfucking cancer! We should all be as brave as Ronan and family!

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  97. Dolores Lopez

     /  October 31, 2011

    I am a mother of two boys and your story is very touching…continue to write poetry and vent. We mourn in bits and pieces…you just don’t get over a part of you in one day…He is a beautiful angel.

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  98. FUCK YOU CANCER!!!!!!! I just lost my 2 yr old baby boy (it’s 3 weeks) to his stem cell transplant. Fuck cancer up the ass. I lost my grandma two months before that to cancer. I lost my dad a year before that. And my mother in law passed in aug. of 2009. FUCK YOU CANCER. FUCK FUCK FUCK.

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  99. I wish I had that fucking purple magic wand !!
    I would certainly use it.

    I fucking hate cancer!

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  100. That’s fucking right! I’m glad your boys wear those bracelets. I’m going on right now to get two Fuck Cancer shirts for two people in one week who were just diagnosed. Thank you so fucking much!

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  101. Suzy

     /  September 12, 2012

    Last night I heard Taylor Swifts song and then looked up your story. I have listened to the song over and over and reading your blog entries, I’ve cried for you all day. No mother should ever have to go through this. Ronan was a very beautiful boy and I’m so very sorry he was taken from you so soon. I love your realness, your words, writing and ability to share the emotions your feeling. I love that you say Fuck. I will be reading and praying for you..

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  102. I agree 100%!!! I’ve had plenty of FUCK YOU CANCER moments since being diagnosed with brain cancer last year. My tumor is called a glioma, which we named Gladys. There have been many FUCK YOU GLADYS moments, how dare she try to come and take me away from my kids!!!!!! And you know what? Each fuck you I think or say or yell does actually make me feel better.
    Hugs to you!!

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