New York Miss Macy and the Candy Store Girl


Ronan. Hi my baby. Nighttime is here. The stars are out. Everyone is asleep. Slumber party in my bed. I hate the time between now, and when I actually fall asleep. It’s too quiet, too calm, too still,  and too lonely without you. It’s the time when my heart feels the heaviest and my mind is so restless. Thoughts of you being gone fill my head and cannot be stopped. It’s as if my mind is screaming that you are gone, but my heart refuses to believe it. I cannot fully accept what is the truth, as true as it is. The magnitude of life without you is too much to take. This is a big part of why I write to you. I write until I can take no more, until I am so tired, that my mind and body finally give in and sleep comes to me. I have no idea how I am getting through this thing called life, especially with the lack of sleep that now consumes me. Somehow, I just keep on going, trying to do my best to ignore everything that is telling me to stop. I want so badly to stop being strong. I would give anything to have you back and to float through life, without knowing this pain. Who the fuck decided this was my lot in life? I want a refund.

All I can say is thank god for New York Miss Macy. I was this close to jumping off our balcony today. Ok…. not really, but she could not have come at a better time. Your brothers and I need a distraction and some laughs. She provided both of those things today. As soon as she arrived, there were hugs all around. We got her settled in and decided to walk to go and get some lunch. We took her to Burger Lounge, where and we all had lunch. Afterwords, we stopped at the candy store to get some treats. The same candy store that has toy pistols and rifles handing on the walls. All I wanted was for you to be with me so I could buy you one. I imagined you running down the street with us, shooting everyone. I stared at them for a minute and caught myself starting to get choked up. I am so glad for what happened next as it has kept me giggling all night. I watched this scene play out like a movie. Let’s call it: “New York Miss Macy and the Candy Store Girl.” Ready……scene….. ACTION!

- Maya goes to the register to pay for her candy and the grouchy teenaged girl working, gives her the total bill with a scowl on her face. Maya watches as New York Miss Macy is standing next to her and takes a couple of pieces of candy out of her bag, before paying, and starts to eat them. Maya watches as the Candy Store girls eyes glance over to New York Miss Macy and a look of annoyance comes over her face. Maya thinks to herself, “Is the Candy Store girl really getting mad because Macy is eating a few pieces of her bulk candy before she pays??” She decides it is only her imagination as isn’t it a given that you munch on a few pieces of candy before you pay when you go into a  bulk candy store?? Not 3 seconds later, the Candy Store girl looks at Macy and goes, “I’m going to actually need you to PAY for that candy, BEFORE you eat it.” Macy, whom is clueless as to what she was even doing because it is just second nature, looks up and goes, “Um…. what?? Yeah, o.k.” Maya is trying to hide her laugher. Macy pays and we scurried out of the store. As soon as we exited, we burst into laughter. Macy goes, “Wait, did I really just get reprimanded for eating a few pieces of my candy by a 15-year-old girl? What is she, the candy police???” This is so something that would only happen to Macy. It made for a lot of laughs tonight.

After our candy store incident, we continued on our walk back to our condo. As we were all 4 walking back, we were looking out at the ocean. Dolphins appeared. We stopped to watch and ended up climbing down some rocks to sit on the beach for a while. We watched the dolphins and played in the sand and water. We ended up having a sand and water fight because sometimes in life, it just makes sense to do silly things like that. It made perfect sense tonight. You would have loved every second of it. At one point, Liam and Quinn were in the distance, playing, just the two of them. It was surreal to watch and I felt as though I was having an out-of-body experience. I will never get used to it just being the two of them, without you injected in the middle. Nothing is right anymore and nothing makes sense. As we were walking back, I got a text from Danielle. It was if she had read my mind from a few minutes earlier as her wording was almost eerie. Something along the lines of how she wants you back so badly for me that it hurts. How you are the light, the finishing touch, the pistol that keeps me alive. She then ended it with, “Fuck. I hate life.” Danielle is one of those people in my life who just gets it. She gets everything. She has a lifeline to my soul and to yours. Her words brought me comfort, for as sad as they may be; they are always true and real. She takes the time to really sit and think about all of this that we are going through and when we do talk about it, I feel as if she is living inside my mind because she says everything that I am thinking. We have a very strong spiritual connection. Thanks, D. Miss you much.

Now that Macy is here, I was able to get in my run tonight. I was totally unmotivated and dreading it. I almost didn’t go. The little voice in the back of my head would not have shut up if I didn’t. I knew this so I headed out the door and ran a fast 6 miles. It actually ended up being a really good run. I’ve missed the pain and release of running these past few days. I broke my record on my NIKE iPhone app for my fastest 10k. Guess I was feeling it after all. I returned feeling better and hopped in the shower before we started movie night. The boys and I decided that we would introduce Macy to one of our favorite movies, Ro. “Zombieland.” She had never seen it and it had her laughing within seconds of turning it on. The more I watch that movie, the more I love it. Seriously, Top 10 favorite movies of all time for me. She loved it too. I knew that during all that laugher, one thing was going to get to her. That one line that will forever cut like a knife. “Take away a man’s son, and you’ve truly given him nothing left to lose.” I watched her wipe the tears from her eyes. I’ve decided that I would like to live in Zombieland because this normal life without you is for the birds. If I have to live without you, I would rather do it by being a badass and killing Zombies than living in this painful life that now exists. At least I would have a lot of things to take my anger out on, besides myself and the nobody who answers to me. The nobody that is to blame, the invisible being that took you away. Somebody should have to answer to me and to explain why. I hate that nobody can give me a reason for this because there should be a reason. If you had to be taken away, I want to know why. And I don’t want to spend the rest of my life trying to figure out why this happened to you, but I don’t know how I can ever come to peace with any of this unless I have somewhat of an answer. Gee, fuckwad. Thanks for the fucking journey that I now get to figure out in life. Thanks for taking my beautiful life and smashing it into a million pieces. I HATE YOU.

But I love you, Ro. I love you to the moon and back. I am still here, despite my pleas to you. I’ll stay here for as long as you want me to be. I know I have to help change the way of this disease for you. Everything I do in my life will be for you. Everything I have done in my life since the birth of you and your brothers, has always been done by putting you all first. I was so happy to do this. It brought me such happiness. Now, I have to go on and continue to do what I have been doing for so long, which is being a mom; without you. I will continue to do this but I will never stop feeling like I have a limb missing. As well as a big chunk of my heart. This is permanent. These scars are not going anywhere. I don’t know how people say they fade either. If anything, I think they just get worse. They are for me anyway. To each his own.

I love you baby. I love you so, so much. I miss you every second of the day. I hope you are safe.

xoxo

                             Family Forever

New York Miss Macy, Quinny, Mama Maya, and Li Li

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12 Comments

  1. Jaime Harris

     /  July 1, 2011

    I’m glad you have Macy there with you and your precious twins. I am continuing to pray for you. I wish you all the best. I’m sorry for your pain. I hope you have a good day today! I pray something good would come of all of this. It just has to! Forever in my prayers…

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  2. Amber H

     /  July 1, 2011

    Hi Maya:
    I was running the other night and almost about to throw myself to the ground in exhaustion (i’m not a big runner you see)…when a song came on my iPod and the whole time I heard it I thought of you. I thought that this is exactly what you would say to Cancer. I don’t have a link to it, but if you google it you can hear it on Youtube.

    Five Finger Death Punch – Hate Me. Its a pretty angry rock song.

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    • Amber H

       /  July 1, 2011

      I know how much you like music…so when I heard this song, I thought of you and Ro as well….

      Address in the Stars by Caitlin and Will. It just played on my Pandora Station.

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  3. Laura

     /  July 1, 2011

    Glad you day was so much better. I know you are going to have a good forth of July weekend. So glad Miss Macy is there to add sparkle to your weekend. Your whole family is in our thoughts and prayer. All our love to you all. Have great weekend.

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  4. Kristen

     /  July 1, 2011

    You know how the Teenage Nazi-Candy Shop broad made you laugh all day? You saying Fuckwad will probably make my weekend!! What a GREAT word!

    Hope that this time with NY Miss Macy helps your heart this weekend, even if it’s just little bit. My heart goes out to you Maya….have the best day possible!

    Stupid FUCKWAD caner.

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  5. Amy

     /  July 1, 2011

    I am not sure if it’s too soon, but I would recommend watching the movie Rabbit Hole. There is a comment Nic kidman makes in the movie about god and angels and It was pretty funny. :) I think you may be able to relate.

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  6. kim

     /  July 1, 2011

    you are right about the saying, “time heals all wounds”. i’m not sure if this is a wound that will ever fully heal. its like you said, you feel like you’re missing a limb. you and ro were one. he was an extension of you and although that same shitty response of “he’ll always be apart of you” pay burn more than it helps but its true. he’s there maya. every second of everyday. i know you don’t see him or physically feel him but he’s there holding tight to your hand. he knows how long and hard and maybe even torturous the days can be for you so when you’re having an extra crappy day look for little signs from your angel. i hope you see another beautiful hummingbird waiting to be greeted soon.
    so glad you had such a wonderful time with miss macy! sounds like her visit hit the spot! i hope your weekend is filled with sweet signs from ro and more rest for you. xoxo

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  7. Kelly

     /  July 1, 2011

    Hi Maya,

    I just finished reading the book Heaven is For Real. When you are ready, you should read it. Praying for you always!

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    • Annie

       /  July 5, 2011

      I just finished reading it too, and thought of Ronan the whole time :) Maya it’s beautiful, but it’s definately not something u should read just yet. I found myself asking why this kid, why not Ronan… and though it is beautiful, I got a lil angry with God. The end result is that you will know where Ro is though, and I don’t think you’d question it as much. I hope your doing okay, I know this fourth has probably been extremely difficult, but I think I speak for everyone when I say we miss hearin from ya! Enjoy ur family time!

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  8. kim van alen

     /  July 1, 2011

    I love you to pieces Maya, but the fact that you just busted out fuckwad makes me love you even more. That word comes out of my mouth almost daily. Is that wrong? You’re awesome, girl!

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  9. sonia

     /  July 2, 2011

    “gee, fuckwad” lol! that’s going to be my new go to phrase. you crack me up even with all the pain you’re going through. i love your candidness!

    thinking of you always!

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  10. Glenda

     /  July 4, 2011

    Maya,

    Hope you had a good 4th of July.
    Thinking of you and Rockstar Ro!

    Xo

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